I'm being serious, y'all.... I need to know where you meet guys. I don't like the bar scene (and let's be honest, at the age of 34 I've kind of outgrown that), I don't work with any single people (and everyone they know is married or dating someone too, so they can't set me up) and so far online dating has been a huge joke. I've even went to chat rooms... it's nothing but cambots and spammers. I do attend a Unitarian Universalist church but haven't found anyone single so far who is even remotely close to my age... everyone is either in high school or a senior citizen.
So how do you meet people? Sometimes I feel like there's something wrong with me, like maybe there are lots of single guys out there but for whatever reason I'm not attracting them. I don't know what to think, really.
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Not sure if that was a joke or not, but I'm throwing out an "LOL" anyway just because...
My SIL is taking some pics of me in a couple of hours for online dating. When I get them ready, I'll post a link to them here. You guys can help me pick some for my profile.
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I hate having my picture taken because I don't know how to pose or smile, and I end up feeling like a dork. There were actually 7 taken, but 2 of them made me look like a beached whale. Another was pretty much an exact duplicate of another, so I just posted one of them.
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I added a new picture... one that was taken of me last week by my friend. There were others, but they made look like a GODDAMN BEACHED WHALE. I need to lose weight RIGHT. THIS. SECOND. I am sooooo serious this time. I'm printing out one of the other pics and posting one on my refrigerator. I'm also getting a copy for my billfold and one for my car too, so every time I want to stop at McDonald's or go for some ice cream, I'll see those pics and remember.... REMEMBER! YOU'RE A FAT-ASS, DAMARIS! STEP AWAY FROM THE CHINESE BUFFET!!!
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Wow "D", your hair has grown alot! I like them, and I still don't understand why you are having a problem, really.
But I've told you before hon, it worked for me, you need to go to things that guys like (whether you like it or not) just be there. You will laugh like hell when I tell you this, but I met alot of men when I used to go to car shows, truck pulls and even the damn monster truck deals. Not that you need to go to those things specifically, but ball games, races, whatever they have in your area that is "guy oriented".
When my daughter was little I used to take her fishing at a popular place down here that guys used to Bass fish. They would help us bait the hook and come over and talk to us, even when I had my kid with me. I did actually date a guy I met that way!..... Stranger things are known to happen!
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But I've told you before hon, it worked for me, you need to go to things that guys like (whether you like it or not) just be there. You will laugh like hell when I tell you this, but I met alot of men when I used to go to car shows, truck pulls and even the damn monster truck deals. Not that you need to go to those things specifically, but ball games, races, whatever they have in your area that is "guy oriented".
I'm already doing that. I go to shooting ranges, sports bars, rodeos, live music at bars (this is supposed to be a big man magnet). I've even went to a drag race. I've got a friend who is very into "the pursuit" too and she's always coming up with these new ideas. She thinks the same way you do, that you just go where the men go whether you like those things or not. But so far it hasn't worked. But thanks for the encouragement anyway.
-- Edited by Damaris at 16:13, 2006-09-07
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
flirt with and smile a lot to the guys that you see in those places that you go to, don't worry if you say hello first. Guys love to think a woman likes them and sometimes they are too shy to make the first move.
I already have the photos on my MySpace profile. Hey, do you have MySpace? If so, be my "friend"! I'm "Lavender Lily" in Oklahoma City. Look me up!!
I didn't know there were dating groups in MySpace. I guess I just wonder what the deal is if men don't notice me IRL. Aside from a drunk guy at a bar a few weeks ago who was 29 and looking to score with anything that moves, that is. I have trouble talking to men first because I'm shy, and I'm afraid they'll think I'm a dork and won't want to talk to me. I've tried speaking up first - more than once - but I was rejected
-- Edited by Damaris at 19:19, 2006-09-07
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
hang in there "D", your day will come, I promise you. You have to just be patient and just go out there and live your life. Then when you least expect it, something will happen.
PS> I like your buddy's thinking. And she's right! lol.
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Um, no offense, but the "when you least expect it" thing has been tossed around for a long, long time. I am sick of patience. I'm sick of waiting patiently for something that should be a normal occurence for most people.
I'm not looking for Mr. Right... just a date with a normal man that actually likes me. I don't think that's too much to ask.
-- Edited by Damaris at 16:11, 2006-09-08
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OK, so let's say I was willing to settle for not meeting someone but just having fun on my own. Where would I go on a Saturday night?
I'm sick of the bar scene (and this includes karaoke - there are no places out there that have karaoke but no drunks), and going out dancing is basically the same as the bar scene nowadays because it's the same people (I know this from experience). The museum closes at 5 p.m. on Saturdays. The bowling alleys are filled with teenagers and junior-high kids (again, I know from experience), and I don't have anyone to bowl with anyway. There's nothing playing at the movies I want to see, and I went to the bookstore last night. I don't want to go again tonight. I can't even do something productive like going to the gym, because they closed at 3 p.m.
So where do you go if you're alone on a Saturday night and don't want to go to a bar?? Please help me out here!
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I have heard that so many times, but seen many instances where the opposite happened, where the woman actively looked for it and found it.
And besides, what do you do on a Saturday night in the meantime? Do you know what I ended up doing because I couldn't find anything else to do? I dressed up really cute, hair done and everything, then went to a pub & grill... and had dinner. Gee, not much fun there. And then I went to a bookstore... again. I blew it. Completely blew it.
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Damaris, I bet you looked pretty all fixed up. At least you are going somewhere and not staying in. That way you never know what can happen, because someone could see you somewhere. Its always better to go out, wherever it is.
Thanks. It just makes me mad because if you're not a big drinker/partier, you are left out of the loop. And then society wonders why there's so many alkies and messed-up relationships where they met at a bar and went home together that night but really didn't have anything in common. Wow, gee, who could possibly guess what went wrong THERE?
And online dating isn't panning out for me either. I have an ad on Match.com with lots of pictures, and it's been up for about 2 weeks now, but I've only gotten 7 responses (including a form letter and two letters from guys who were mentally handicapped). The other 4 were either too far away or older than I was looking for, but I wrote back anyway just to see what would happen. I never heard from any of them again. It's weird, because it's not like I'm asking for very much. I just want a single guy who doesn't do drugs, who lives relatively close (I think I put a 50 mile radius, but of course anyone from anywhere can write to you) and who is between 30 and 45 (this is a pretty big range but I'm even trying to be flexible with it). I don't care if he's shorter than me, I don't care if he isn't handsome as long as he's embraced "wash, rinse and repeat" into his lifestyle, I don't care if he smokes or isn't rich... he doesn't even have to have a college degree (although a high school diploma or GED is mandatory). I just want him fit the above criteria and be nice, semi-normal and of at least average intelligence. But for some strange reason this is simply not available to me. Scary.
How nice. So now I'm going to ask a friend to help me revamp my ad because for some strange reason I have this "do not pass go" vibe going on and it's tripping me out. Sorry to bitch so much... I'm just coming here to vent, because it's easier than grabbing an AK 47 and climbing a clock tower wearing my mother's underwear on my head. Ammo is hella expensive anyway.
-- Edited by Damaris at 10:40, 2006-09-10
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Damaris, Everyone doesn't drink and go to clubs or bars and though thats fun to do, it really isn't the place to meet potential relationship material. I mean I guess it can happen, but in my experiences it isn't. Maybe you should try some kind of change of something new and different in your life. Sometimes getting a new job or going to classes, etc. can help to meet new people. Also maybe try to incorporate some new female friends in your life. A lot of times females are a good way to meet new males as they have friends sometimes that are men. I don't know, just trying to come up with some ideas for you.
Thank you, Patty. I am contemplating some huge changes in my life... at this point, it's almost overwhelming at times, and I'm not sure if I'm doing it because I really WANT to do it or because I just need a change... or because I'm running away from my emotions and trying to throw myself into something that will force me to focus my energies and not just float around untethered. I'm contemplating going back to school (nursing), doing volunteer work (if I can find a position on the weekends, which seems to be nearly impossible), trying to finish these stories and motivate myself to work on at least one of the screenplays again, all the while attempting to manage a social life, lose 20 lbs. and convince my parents I'm not slowly going insane. Oh, and I need to find some financial aid if I want to go back to school.
Does anyone have any speed I could take for the next couple of weeks? I don't REALLY need to sleep, do I?
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Nursing is a good field and you can work anywhere if you want to move. There's lots of cute doctors Speed??? If you are thinking of that for dieting, please don't. I have a friend that took prescription diet pills once and what happens is you do originally lose weight and then your body gets used to it and you end up gaining back all of the weight plus more after you are off of them. Its better to just exercise a lot. You are very pretty, you don't want to do that to yourself and lose sleep and get old faster that way.
Oh, I'm not really planning on taking speed. My body can't handle that stuff anyway. One time a few years ago I tried taking a "diet aid", which was bought off the shelf. After taking only one pill, it made my heart race so badly that I threw them away.
Thank you for the encouragement... I just need to get my head on straight and figure out what on earth I want to do, and why I am trying to push myself to do more. I get bored and restless, and feel the need to try new things and explore. Nursing interests me because it puts me directly in contact with real people, helping them, as opposed to sitting in front of a computer all day, every day, like I have for the past several years.
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I am sick of patience. I'm sick of waiting patiently for something that should be a normal occurence for most people.
