So the karaoke contest was tonight, and unfortunately I didn't place :frown: However, it was discovered that it was (at least partially) rigged. All of the judges were supposed to be completely unfamiliar with the contestants, but later on we found out that at least one of them knew all of the local people in the contest and was trying to get certain people in first place (for both male and female categories). One of the judges came up to me and one of the guys after the winners were announced and said we performed very well, but "there was a big discrepancy in judge's opinions". Well... then some people in the bar cornered the owner and demanded a recount or a complete do-over of the contest, because the woman who won first flat out SUCKED - she had a sour, tinny, nasally tone - and a lot of people were pissed that she even placed, let alone got first place. The DJ accused the owner's wife of stealing money out of the prize envelopes and the owner's wife in return called the DJ a "lying ****ing bitch". Screaming matches between the owner, owner's wife, DJ, judges and certain contestants ensued. It just got ugly after that.
And here I am, caught in the middle of this fiasco, with a man old enough to be my goddamn GRANDPA slobbering all over me, begging me to ride on his motorcycle with him, trying to dance with me and buy me drinks and telling me over and over again how beautiful I am... OMFG. I am sooooooo SICK of the losers who continually approach me in bars! I could just SCREAM! I'm sick of the drama, the crowds, the smoke, the whole scene. So I've made a monumental decision that will be hard to implement, but I'm hoping I can make it work.... I'm not going into bars and clubs anymore. Not ever... not for any reason... not even for karaoke or dancing. I am simply FED UP with it all... the men who hit on me are not what I want, and rather than dealing with the mental exasperation of weeding through them and deflecting their advances, I simply choose not to expose myself to them anymore. Enough is enough!!
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So the karaoke contest was tonight, and unfortunately I didn't place :frown: However, it was discovered that it was (at least partially) rigged. All of the judges were supposed to be completely unfamiliar with the contestants, but later on we found out that at least one of them knew all of the local people in the contest and was trying to get certain people in first place (for both male and female categories). One of the judges came up to me and one of the guys after the winners were announced and said we performed very well, but "there was a big discrepancy in judge's opinions". Well... then some people in the bar cornered the owner and demanded a recount or a complete do-over of the contest, because the woman who won first flat out SUCKED - she had a sour, tinny, nasally tone - and a lot of people were pissed that she even placed, let alone got first place. The DJ accused the owner's wife of stealing money out of the prize envelopes and the owner's wife in return called the DJ a "lying ****ing bitch". Screaming matches between the owner, owner's wife, DJ, judges and certain contestants ensued. It just got ugly after that. And here I am, caught in the middle of this fiasco, with a man old enough to be my goddamn GRANDPA slobbering all over me, begging me to ride on his motorcycle with him, trying to dance with me and buy me drinks and telling me over and over again how beautiful I am... OMFG. I am sooooooo SICK of the losers who continually approach me in bars! I could just SCREAM! I'm sick of the drama, the crowds, the smoke, the whole scene. So I've made a monumental decision that will be hard to implement, but I'm hoping I can make it work.... I'm not going into bars and clubs anymore. Not ever... not for any reason... not even for karaoke or dancing. I am simply FED UP with it all... the men who hit on me are not what I want, and rather than dealing with the mental exasperation of weeding through them and deflecting their advances, I simply choose not to expose myself to them anymore. Enough is enough!!
Jeeze! Your just having all the luck lately! I never liked the bar scene. The last time I was at a bar, me & my friends were hit on endlessly by a drunk Kevin Spacey look-a-like. Two out of the four girls I was with were lesbians & all over eachother when they weren't busy trying to get guys to buy them drinks that is! And I went home with the worst headache ever! I'd rather stay home & drink!
Ya know, I'm starting to notice an odd discrepancy between how I look and how most other women look when I'm out and about (this is not an "I'm so hot" thing... just bear with me, LOL):
I went to a local pub & grill tonight for a grilled chicken salad and iced tea (quite tasty, BTW)... arrived about 8:30. The place was packed. After people-watching for awhile, I noticed something a bit odd... I was not only the tallest woman in the room, but also had the biggest boobs. As if this weren't disturbing enough, I realized that almost all of the women there were wearing basically the same clothing... black halter tops or tank tops, capris, chunky jewelry. They also had short funky hair (choppy and spiky), long and stick-straight or long and slightly wavy.
I was wearing a white crocheted top with a little white ribbon running through it that hit me right across the chest, dark blue hiphugger jeans, white heels and diamond studs. I also had a little white leather wrist purse with silver studs and diamond charms - very Jessica Simpson-ish. My hair? Short and curly, quasi-Marilyn Monroe style. Oh, yeah, as if I needed to stand out any more than I already did. At that very moment I realized that, 99% of the time, I dress like a little girl would if she woke up one morning and realized that she was about 6 feet tall and needed a bra BAD. The whole concept of dressing "cool" or "grown-up" is essentially foreign to me.
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We talked about this when you were here and we were shopping. But, wearing what Hollywood does isn't exactly great either. Their clothes are mostly hideous! I think "What Not to Wear" is a great show to pick up pointers on clothes that fit your body type = classic looks with jewelry and accessories making the update. Face it, we live in the midwest and can't get away with ultra trendy stuff and we don't have the body types anyway...we are built for physical labor and like eating pork chops. I'd never have any energy if I was 110 lbs. Just not healthy for me. I stay away from shorts if I can because I don't like my knees or the heredity thighs from my mother.
I'm making a point to take care of myself now. For years I've put myself on the back burner so now I'm doing things for me as well. Feels a bit weird, and I have to force myself a lot, but I know it's best. We'll go shopping when I come down for a visit Damaris!!!
Oh, I'm not saying I have a problem with the way I dress... I'm just saying it's funny when you compare my clothes to their clothes. I think I look cute, damnit!
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
When I'm not at work, or going out - out, I'm in slicks and a T-shirt with hair in a pony tail and no make up. You dress up way more than I ever do because you actually go out. I'm most comfy in workout clothes but those really cute girls are always in jewels with their hair done just to go to Target. I'm so out classed.
Bah. You're 10 times cuter than a lot of them and you know it (come to think of it, so do they... that's why they try so hard. LOL.). Not to sound catty, but there's a whole lot of ugly floating around out there.
Frankly, going out is overrated. Big time. I am seriously considering just buying a laptop and chilling at Starbucks or Barnes & Noble on Friday and Saturday nights, when I'm not with my singles group. I went to B&N after I left the pub, and you know what? That was way more fun for me. I had more fun getting a frappuchino and looking through a coffee table book of pictureque New England villages than I did hanging out at a pub & grill. I am such a dork it's unreal.
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Well it's official, I dropped out of school. Not something I'm exactly proud of, but I just didn't feel it was for me. I thought I was doing right & I tried so hard to be excited about it, but sometimes you just have to go with your gut. So here I am again unemployed & not in school! Sometimes I feel like I'm bouncing off the walls of life & I have no idea where or what I'm doing! It's frustrating to say the least because I'm 28 years old & still have no clue "What I want to be when I grow up." so to speak. I also don't feel like I'm setting a good example for my kids by going from one thing, quitting, & moving on to the next. But I also don't want them to see me stick with something that makes me a misserable bitch either! This sucks and I'm sorry to be venting it here, but I needed to talk to someone who doesn't really know me & my history of job hopping or my attempt at life changing stratagies only to say "I told you so!" "Make up yours & my mind already!" or something along those lines.
I've taken up a new interest that I don't want to mention just yet as I don't clearly understand it all myself yet plus I'm a little worried about the reaction it may have. I guess I can say that it has to do with religion though & I've been drawn to it for quite some time now. Finally, something that makes sense to me! LOL!
((((Perfect)))) For what it's worth, I know exactly how you feel. I do this all the time... things change on the spin of a dime for me, and sometimes I don't want it to be like that. Just remember, we're all here for each other.
And don't worry about your new interest... you'd be surprised how open-minded many of us here, and if it's what I think it is, then I personally understand where you're coming from and why you're hesitant.
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Hey Linda, vent away!!! It's what we all do when we come in here anyhow! About everything. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm old enough to be your Mom and frankly........I still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up!! Also I was told today they want to do away with my position. Hell, I'll be looking for work too and won't be able to replace this money or benefits. So for what it's worth, you are not the "Lone Ranger".
Just know that we harlots seem to be here for each other and have a place to let all this crap out. So I Thank each and everyone of ya'll for being here or out there...lol. And I know "every dog has their day". So bark up and howl, cause we will get ours too!!! So there!
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Thanks D & Cheri! It makes me so happy to know that you gals are there. It really does! Since my mom's gone, I don't really have anyone. My friends here have there own troubles & like I said, they see what I do with jobs & schooling, so it's like, "Oh, she quit her job/school...AGAIN!" They also wouldn't understand my new interest either. They'd think I was looney or some kind of satanist. So, I guess in saying that, everyone (D already figured it out) should have an idea of what I'm talking about. O.k....I guess I feel o.k. about saying that I'm reading up on & seriously getting involved in Wiccan beliefs. I've always been intersted, but because of the way society looks at this religion, I've pushed the urges to really do anything out of my mind. Not anymore! It's not what so many people think it is at all! I don't know all the specs of it as I'm just a beginner, but I do know that nobody gets hurt or sacrificed in the process! LOL!
Yeah, it's nothing at all like the media or other religions have portrayed it to be. All Pagan-centered religions are life-affirming and peaceful... and despite what many people believe, Satanism is NOT the same as Paganism... nowhere close to it. I don't think you have to worry about anyone judging you here, Perfect.
I'm sorry to hear that you're looking for another job, Cheri. I think just about all of us have gone through that here recently. For what it's worth, I have never had to grasp the concept of being a "grown up" because I've never had to deal with that many grown-up responsibilities (husband, kids, etc.). I work and I'm independent, but other than that I'm free as a bird. However, this has made me a bit "soft" and complacent, so I too know what it's like to be unsure of what to do with your life.
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
I know ppl into that. It's not so bad. Pretty damn interesting too. It's more like "white magic" instead of black magic. I hope you find what you seek with it. No judgement here. To each their own. Live & let live.
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Prefect, that is sweet! Let us know what you find out. I love studying cultures and religions. Probably why I'm spiritual, but not religious. Drives my parents crazy who raised me Presbyterian.
If one more person tells me, after looking at my kids (one autistic, one brittle bones), that God only gives you what you can handle, I'm going to haul off and smack them.
I know ppl into that. It's not so bad. Pretty damn interesting too. It's more like "white magic" instead of black magic. I hope you find what you seek with it. No judgement here. To each there own. Live & let live.
Yes, it's very interesting... I studied it a few years back but drifted away when my life went into turmoil and I kept bouncing around from place to place, job to job, and sometimes being forced to share my personal space with my family. My parents are surprisingly open-minded, but I would still rather not discuss my spiritual beliefs too deeply with them.
The reality of Wicca and other Paganistic paths is that there really is no such thing as "white" or "black" magick. Just like in nature, the line between what is exclusively good or evil is blurred, and sometimes doesn't exist at all except in your own mind and intent. As long as you do nothing that you know will hurt yourself or others, you're living your life with the best intentions and any magick you work will turn out for the best. Some people think it's OK to try to control other people with it... for example, casting a spell to "help" someone without their permission... that's interfering with someone else's life, even if you mean well. However, if they ASK you to do it, then it's all good. And love spells cannot be cast to bring a specific person to you (as much as I would love to know a "Capture Nic" spell, LOLOLOLOLOL), but rather to bring love in general into your life.
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Prefect, that is sweet! Let us know what you find out. I love studying cultures and religions. Probably why I'm spiritual, but not religious. Drives my parents crazy who raised me Presbyterian. If one more person tells me, after looking at my kids (one autistic, one brittle bones), that God only gives you what you can handle, I'm going to haul off and smack them.
(((((Sinclaire)))))
Yeah, I always thought that was a load of crap too (no offense to Christians, I just never bought into it). Fortunately, my parents were raised in families that practiced religion strictly "by the book" and did little to drag their own personal sympathies into it (mother was raised Roman Catholic, father was raised Southern Baptist... they were married by a justice of the peace and have only went back to church for funerals), so I never had to bear any of that nonsense from anyone.
It's so nice to be in the company of people who are not judgmental and allow you to speak your mind and express yourself. I would like to get back to my "studies" once I move into my apartment... I find the whole concept of Paganism/nature religions/magick/the paranormal terribly fascinating and could talk about it for hours if someone let me.
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Cheri, you had posted this on the "New Year's Eve" thread:
If I want to last longer...hehe, I drink Vodka, with orange juice and pink grapefruit juice. I love that stuff. Nice high, and no bloat!...lol
Can I just say that this is the BEST. STUFF. IN THE WORLD. to drink... way better than anything I've ever had before. It ROCKS!!! Thank you soooooooo much for recommending this... I've tried sweet cocktails and they were just too cloying for me... I don't drink beer, and wine coolers make my stomach hurt. I like wine, but it can be a bit heavy. This is so much better... easy on your stomach, goes down smoothly and isn't too sweet. It also provides a nice steady buzz that is nursed by the natural sugars of the orange juice. Very, very good. And no bloat either!
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
I know ppl into that. It's not so bad. Pretty damn interesting too. It's more like "white magic" instead of black magic. I hope you find what you seek with it. No judgement here. To each there own. Live & let live.
Thanks Cheri! I subscribed to newsletters from this lady who has been practicing herself for many years. I haven't been keeping up with them though. So I have alot of catching up to do! LOL!
Prefect, that is sweet! Let us know what you find out. I love studying cultures and religions. Probably why I'm spiritual, but not religious. Drives my parents crazy who raised me Presbyterian. If one more person tells me, after looking at my kids (one autistic, one brittle bones), that God only gives you what you can handle, I'm going to haul off and smack them.
Thanks Sinclaire! I will. What I have read so far is pretty facinating. I'm hooked! LOL! I guess in a way, I've always been attracted to different cultures & religion too. I absolutley love the ancient Egyptian beliefs & rituals. They had a god or goddess for everything! LOL! Anyways I understand what you mean by people who give you that crap about God only giving you what you can handle. What a crock! I've had my share too!
You'll find us in a jail cell, wearing sparkly witch hats AND NOTHING ELSE, dancing around naked in a circle, surrounded by red candles and a picture of Nic... "Hey! You're just in time for the closing of the circle!".
LMAO
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Kimchee is the answer to everyone's problems! It is the life force, the uncompromising Id, the dish at the end of the cold bar at the Asian buffet that keeps the common thread of mankind from unraveling at the seams!! WE MUST HAVE MORE KIMCHEE!!!
Alright "DDDDDDDD", I'm so glad you finally got to try my favorite of all drinks!! Too cool! It's better then a "Screw Driver" (vodka/oj) but when I ask for it out, it has no name. We call it "Cheri Juice" at home. Maybe we should name it "Screw This"!! lol.
I get a fabulous buzz off of it, and it's healthy! I've tried about every drink there is over my life time, but this is the one I drink if I'm really going to party. So glad you like it!
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