LMAO... so, do you ever find yourself walking off a cliff into mid-air, and then standing there for 10 seconds before realizing that there's nothing underneath you?  I hate it when that happens.

But I'm tripping over the fact that the bartender knew my name.  The last time I came in was over 3 weeks ago... I did pay with my debit card, but how could he have remembered my first name after glancing at it?  WTF?  Does he have magic beer-induced powers of memory that defy all explanation?  I totally wanna go in there and say, "OK, I DEMAND TO KNOW HOW YOU KNEW MY NAME... AND REMEMBERED WHAT I DRINK.".

"D..........."

Yeah, it was too strange.  He's probably one of those guys that has a really good memory and likes to show off with it.

here's a new one : maybe he's interested and wanted to know your name.

or maybe he's just really good with people - the complete opposite of me who will forget your name 3 seconds after you say it (but I'll remember your face forever)

Kimmy wrote:

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Damaris.......what he looks like ? Cute ? Is the guy turn you on ? Did you ask him how come he knows your name and  or remember it ? When are you going back to the Bar ? Will it be on his shift ? LET US KNOW ! -- Edited by Kimmy at 07:54, 2006-03-03

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Yes, he's actually quite cute... young.  Younger than me, I'm sure.  I'm guessing early-mid 20's.  I went over there tonight but he wasn't there... another guy was working the bar instead.  Unfortunately, this one resembled the dancing fat guy , but with a ponytail.  Nice guy, but perhaps a bit too much man for me    .  When I sat at the bar, he took one look at me and said, "Where have you been all my life?".  Huh.  Oh, and another guy at the bar approached me and wanted me to join him for dinner, but he was also not making the doo-dah hum.  I felt kind of bad, because he seemed like a nice man, but he just wasn't doing anything for me... no chemistry.  He was at least my dad's age, and didn't appeal to me sexually at all.

That's an awkward situation for me, because on one hand the person seems nice, but on the other hand if you immediately sense that there's just no chemistry there (for you, anyway), what are you supposed to do?  How many times do you go out with someone, hoping that some sort of sexual attraction will develop, before you finally realize that there's just nothing there?  And is that leading the other person on... leading them to believe that they have a shot when they really don't?  All my dating life I've forced myself to date guys that I wasn't attracted to because they were really nice... it just doesn't work out.  I'm looking for someone that gives me that raw primal thrill... someone who makes me feel like I'm running a fever whenever I'm sitting close to him, and makes me have to sit on my hands to keep from groping him.  I don't want a dopey-eyed "nice guy" who calls me "sweetheart" within a couple of minutes of meeting me (like this guy did tonight) and talks to me like he's an old man looking for a chess partner.  For once in my life, I want something exciting and hot, even if it's not long-term.  Does that sound weird?

Well.... that dude at the restaurant isn't hot for me.

I went out there tonight, and he was working the bar.  He remembered me again, and after guessing my drink and order (which was REALLY bizarre since I don't order the same thing every time), I asked him, "So, I'm dying to know... how did you remember all that stuff about me, like my name?  How did you know and remember my name?"

A guy who was hot for me would have answered that question with something like, "I remember the names of ALL the hot women that come in here.", or something cheesy like that. 

But what does he say instead?  "Uh, I don't know.  I guess I work too much.".  And then he walks away. 

Um, I only go in there maybe once every 2 weeks.  He remembers my name, remembers what I drink and even knew what I was going to order to eat?????  But his reasoning is "I guess I work too much?".  Well, he didn't work too much to chat up some other chick sitting at the end of the bar, or talk with all his buddies... he DID, however, work too much to refill my Diet Coke.  I had to get someone else to do it.

At this point, I could be naively led to believe that my sexual magnetism and undivided attention was so ****ing overwhelming to him that he could do nothing more than give me a stupid answer and then run away like a frightened little girl.  However, I also got dissed by my hot-as-sin financial advisor... I really didn't want to mention that here on the boards, but yes, I once again got dissed by a guy.  I asked him out... I tried to be cute and smooth about it, by suggesting that I could offer him the option of taking him out for dinner and drinks in lieu of my yearly payment.  His reply?  "Uh, no.  I'd rather have the $250.".  But, gee, he said it with a smile on his face.  What a great way to get shot down, right???

So I really can't fool myself at this point.  I have no game when it comes to men.... none whatsoever.  Guys are supposed to LIKE it when women do that kind of stuff, aren't they?  Aren't they supposed to think it's cool?  Why do I get royally dissed when I try to make a move or even put myself out there, and only get some fat guy twice my age who acts all lecherous like he's trolling the 8th grade cheerleader tryouts??

But that doesn't explain why these two guys shot me down.

I'm not a troll, I swear!!  Y'all know that!  You would think that Scooter and Moonpie alone would be enough of an incentive for a man to be a bit more receptive to my flirtations, but nooooooooo..... all I seem to attract are weird, creepy guys my dad's age (or even older).  They love me, but anyone closer to my age and even remotely attractive has zero interest.  Why?

Maybe there is some quality about me that screams "ugly" to guys my age, but older guys have lowered their standards enough where they can overlook it and therefore find me more attractive?  Or maybe older guys just have lower standards in general, which is kind of a slap in the face anyway?

Last night I went out to one of my regular hangouts to meet some friends there... she is having a party tonight at her house, and one of the guys in my group is gonna be there.  He's single, and not bad-looking.  So we're talking for a few minutes, then I get up to sing (karaoke bar).  When I come back, he's sitting next to some chunky, rough-looking chick at our table, and he's with her for the rest of the night!!  He has nothing more to say to me... he's all up on this other chick instead.  WTF?

I don't get it.  I've been wearing pheromones, I dress sexy... WTF is the deal?

Well, gee, some interesting news on the dating front... I've got a lesbian hot on my trail.

(bangs head repeatedly against computer desk)

This is not big news to anyone who really knows me, but lesbians like me.  A LOT.  If I were a lesbian too, I would be getting action just about every night of the week.  They hit on me in bars, at restaurants, in the parking lot of convenience stores.  That being said, I have zero sexual interest in women, so this doesn't help me one bit.  I'm not offended by the attention, it's just of no concern to me at all. 

One of the newest members of our singles group is a lesbian... she is of the "masculine" variety.  She even rides a Harley.  And yes, she appears to have a girlie crush on me.  We all went to the Medieval Fair yesterday and she paid quite a bit of attention to me the whole time.  She even made sure to tell me how much she liked me before we left.  While that is very sweet, I can't help but shudder inwardly at the thought... the same as if I were forced to swallow a raw oyster.

Why the **** are lesbians so intrigued with me?

Cheripits wrote:

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Not to step on your glory, Trace, but they like this ol' redhead alot too!!! I've worked with some at different times in my life and they always give me gifts. I've be grabbed and felt up in the ladies room before. I've even had one dance very provocativly just for me in a bar, in front of everyone I knew there. AND I am nothing but a 100 % bonafided "meat eater" all the way, I don't even eat Sushi!!!....lol I thought it was cause I was tall and strong looking. But I have long hair, long natural painted nails, I love to wear makeup and I think I'm pretty "girlie", so I have no idea what the damn deal is. Some one tell us please. I don't know what to tell you Trace, I've been hoping you would get some action soon, but this isn't what I was wishing for ya!..............lmao (sorry)

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