online dating

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

online dating

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

So I've tried online dating in the past, half-heartedly... not much success. I want to jump back into it, and my mother is prodding me all the way. She's even going to be taking some pictures of me for it tomorrow. Online dating pisses me off. It's so calculated, so scientific... you have to write your ad a certain way to ensure the most success, you have to have the best picture, the wittiest tag line. You also have to invest a lot of time into it if you want to get dates - refreshing your ad a lot so it comes up at the top of the list, emailing other people, analyzing THEIR ads, etc. This sucks ass. But if I want someone to snuggle with on the couch and maybe go out to dinner with once in awhile, I need to do something. Online dating BLOWS. So if I post my ad and pics here, will you guys give me criticism and feedback? Please?

Ugh! Online dating scares me, not that I haven't thought about it.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

I've done it before... it seems to be the number one way that people are meeting nowadays. If you aren't in school anymore, and nobody interests you at work, then online dating is the way to go.

I don't really like it either, but what are you gonna do?

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

I've done it before... it seems to be the number one way that people are meeting nowadays. If you aren't in school anymore, and nobody interests you at work, then online dating is the way to go. I don't really like it either, but what are you gonna do?

Yeah I know. Just going out doesn't get it anymore. And if that's not bad enough try having 3 kids! You tell a guy you have three kids & believe me they'll use that third "leg" they got there to run with! LOL!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

Some guys will only date a woman who DOES have kids, especially if they're single dads themselves.

I've noticed that, at least around here, there are a LOT of single dads. Short, chunky, hairy single dads. It's odd. I don't have a problem with dating a man with kids, but I know from experience that it's really all they can talk about.

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

You know I have to give guys credit for that. There are men out there that will take on someone elses kids, but I think it's harder for a woman to do the same.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

To be perfectly honest, I don't know if I could do it. I'm 33, and have never had children or been married, so the whole thing would be such a shock to me.

I'm used to doing things for myself, on my own agenda.

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Yeah I hear ya. That would be a big change for you. Sometimes the kids don't make it easy either. Their mom is their mom & that's it and your the evil step mom.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

I've heard that from women who haved dated and married men with kids. They are always the evil bitch who tries to control things, when in reality all the woman wants is for the kids to stop walking on her carpet with shoes on. LMAO.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

My absolute ideal man (and I know there is just no way this would ever happen, but hey...) would be someone who is about my age or a little older, but not TOO old. He would be a little bigger/taller than me, hot but in a quiet, subdued way. Obviously someone who looked like Nic would be a dream come true, but I would be satisfied with someone clean-cut and decently dressed.

He would be extremely affectionate, always want to hold my hand in public and put his arms around me from behind when I was cooking dinner... I want someone who, if given a choice, would rather come home to be than be with his buddies after work (although I understand that everyone needs "me" time... I wouldn't deny him that). Of course honesty, kindness and a good work ethic is required. No diseases, addiction free.

Damn, I'm kind of asking for a lot, aren't I? It sounds that way. He doesn't have to be rich, educated, or drive a nice car. I don't even care if he smokes. Immense peen is nice but not necessary... gotta be average-sized, though.

-- Edited by Damaris at 07:30, 2005-12-03

Kimmy · Moderator

Damaris wrote:

To be perfectly honest, I don't know if I could do it. I'm 33, and have never had children or been married, so the whole thing would be such a shock to me. I'm used to doing things for myself, on my own agenda.

Hey D ...did you ever try to go to a gym sometimes there is awsome guys ..

or go at school adult courses of something ...you can meet interesting people !

Kimmy · Moderator

About myself ...lol I am single big time I love my freedom and I will remain single ...

I love it that way This is by choice ...I do not want kids and I do not want a man for life

(only my opinion here : it's ****in too boring ..

I don't like a guy that is always beside me ...it gets on my last nerve !)

I can'T stand a man that tells me what to do !

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

My absolute ideal man (and I know there is just no way this would ever happen, but hey...) would be someone who is about my age or a little older, but not TOO old. He would be a little bigger/taller than me, hot but in a quiet, subdued way. Obviously someone who looked like Nic would be a dream come true, but I would be satisfied with someone clean-cut and decently dressed. He would be extremely affectionate, always want to hold my hand in public and put his arms around me from behind when I was cooking dinner... I want someone who, if given a choice, would rather come home to be than be with his buddies after work (although I understand that everyone needs "me" time... I wouldn't deny him that). Of course honesty, kindness and a good work ethic is required. No diseases, addiction free. Damn, I'm kind of asking for a lot, aren't I? It sounds that way. He doesn't have to be rich, educated, or drive a nice car. I don't even care if he smokes. Immense peen is nice but not necessary... gotta be average-sized, though.-- Edited by Damaris at 07:30, 2005-12-03

Sometimes having a set list of preferences is a good thing D! I was never really choosy about the guys I dated. Didn't care if they had a car or a job and apparently a personality. LOL! But that's why I ended up with jackass I did. For 13 years I tried to make it work with him. We even had 3 kids together, but he's one of those "would rather be partying then be home with my kids" types. And party he did. Definetly stay away from those men that have addictions. I went through hell with my ex because of that. Their addiction really drags you down too. This **** I was with sold pretty much everything we had, stole from my family & worst of all denied his kids his time! He's in jail now which I hate to say is great because it allowed me to finally get me & the kids away from him.

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Kimmy wrote:

About myself ...lol I am single big time I love my freedom and I will remain single ... I love it that way This is by choice ...I do not want kids and I do not want a man for life (only my opinion here : it's ****in too boring .. I don't like a guy that is always beside me ...it gets on my last nerve !) I can'T stand a man that tells me what to do !

I hear ya Kimmy! I'm single for a little over 3 months now & loving it. I do miss having someone in my life though from time to time. I was with my ex for a long time. Long MISERABLE time. I should have been single a long time ago where he's concerned. I guess it was that desire to have someone that kept me with him. No one REALLY enjoys being alone. But if I've learned anything from that relationship it's this, just because you have someone in your life, it doesn't mean your not still alone.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

Kimmy wrote:

Hey D ...did you ever try to go to a gym sometimes there is awsome guys .. or go at school adult courses of something ...you can meet interesting people !

I used to go to the gym all the time... I never met anyone interesting there. It was mostly women, and obnoxious men going through mid-life crisis.

As for classes, you have to have money to attend those. Being broke sucks.

-- Edited by Damaris at 14:19, 2005-12-03

Kimmy · Moderator

Damaris wrote:

Kimmy wrote: Hey D ...did you ever try to go to a gym sometimes there is awsome guys .. or go at school adult courses of something ...you can meet interesting people ! I used to go to the gym all the time... I never met anyone interesting there. It was mostly women, and obnoxious men going through mid-life crisis. As for classes, you have to have money to attend those. Being broke sucks.-- Edited by Damaris at 14:19, 2005-12-03

Sooo...what about going skating roller skating ? ...Or at the beach or swimpool...

or just sit somewhere in a park and read a good book...let me think about ideas..

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

Kimmy wrote:

Sooo...what about going skating roller skating ? ...Or at the beach or swimpool... or just sit somewhere in a park and read a good book...let me think about ideas..

ROTFLMAO. You are quite the little problem-solver, aren't you? I wish I did live in a climate that permitted those kinds of outdoor activities all year round. As it stands, it's very cold here right now... and I do not live anywhere near a beach. I want to be in California. WAAAAAAH!

All I do know is, bars don't work. Period. I have to go to enough of them for contests and such, and I don't like it. When people start drinking that "liquid courage", it seems to give them carte blanche to take liberties with you and your personal space. Yes, I freely admit to being a diva. 99.99% of the time, I do NOT want some strange drunk man coming up to me and rubbing my shoulders and neck - that's what happened to me last night. I had just gotten off stage to sit back down at the bar, and I was apparently rubbing the back of my neck or something, and some old fool came up behind me and started squeezing my neck and shoulders really hard "just to get the kinks out". WTF??? I pulled his hands away and he was all like, "Oh, I was just trying to help.".

If I don't know someone, have never even seen them before, and they do something like that, my bitch armor is on. Immediately. Unless they're really hot and I don't get a skeev vibe from them, but that's never happened.

-- Edited by Damaris at 10:44, 2005-12-04

-- Edited by Damaris at 10:45, 2005-12-04

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

Kimmy wrote: Sooo...what about going skating roller skating ? ...Or at the beach or swimpool... or just sit somewhere in a park and read a good book...let me think about ideas.. ROTFLMAO. You are quite the little problem-solver, aren't you? I wish I did live in a climate that permitted those kinds of outdoor activities all year round. As it stands, it's very cold here right now... and I do not live anywhere near a beach. I want to be in California. WAAAAAAH! All I do know is, bars don't work. Period. I have to go to enough of them for contests and such, and I don't like it. When people start drinking that "liquid courage", it seems to give them carte blanche to take liberties with you and your personal space. Yes, I freely admit to being a diva. 99.99% of the time, I do NOT want some strange drunk man coming up to me and rubbing my shoulders and neck - that's what happened to me last night. I had just gotten off stage to sit back down at the bar, and I was apparently rubbing the back of my neck or something, and some old fool came up behind me and started squeezing my neck and shoulders really hard "just to get the kinks out". WTF??? I pulled his hands away and he was all like, "Oh, I was just trying to help.". If I don't know someone, have never even seen them before, and they do something like that, my bitch armor is on. Immediately. Unless they're really hot and I don't get a skeev vibe from them, but that's never happened.-- Edited by Damaris at 10:44, 2005-12-04 -- Edited by Damaris at 10:45, 2005-12-04

That's how I am too D. Cute or not, I can't stand men that think just because you have a few drinks in you that it's all free play!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

But what if it was Nic?

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

But what if it was Nic?

Well...I guess I could make ONE exception. LOL!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

See, that's what I'm saying... if he were really hot, and I was pretty sure he wasn't a serial killer or anything, I could probably make an exception. I mean, that sounds terribly shallow, but I'm sorry... there are exceptions to every rule.

But it's ALWAYS some fat old fart with a bad toupee, drunk off his ass on beer. It's like, WTF would make him think I would want him to do that to me?

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

See, that's what I'm saying... if he were really hot, and I was pretty sure he wasn't a serial killer or anything, I could probably make an exception. I mean, that sounds terribly shallow, but I'm sorry... there are exceptions to every rule. But it's ALWAYS some fat old fart with a bad toupee, drunk off his ass on beer. It's like, WTF would make him think I would want him to do that to me?

Oh I know, you don't even have to tell me! I'm the QUEEN of the loser magnet!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

I mean, GODDAMN.... did I rattle his chain? Did I SAY I wanted his bloated, greasy paws on me?

This sounds terribly snobbish, but I think y'all know what I mean when I say that there are some places you just know you shouldn't go... there's certain clubs, bars, etc. that you just don't visit if you're a single woman with any amount of class and sophistication whatsoever (and we ALL know what a classy broad I am). This place is one of them. The only reason I went there was for the contest. Next week I have a shot at winning $500.

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

Ooh, ooh, OOH, you know what kind of guy I want?

I want a guy that looks like Nic, but doesn't speak English... like he could be from the Soviet Union or something. That way I don't have to humor him while he talks about himself all night, and when he wants a little fun he'd have to show me instead of running his mouth about how good he is.

Yeah!!

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

I mean, GODDAMN.... did I rattle his chain? Did I SAY I wanted his bloated, greasy paws on me? This sounds terribly snobbish, but I think y'all know what I mean when I say that there are some places you just know you shouldn't go... there's certain clubs, bars, etc. that you just don't visit if you're a single woman with any amount of class and sophistication whatsoever (and we ALL know what a classy broad I am). This place is one of them. The only reason I went there was for the contest. Next week I have a shot at winning $500.

You don't sound snobbish to me D. I know those types as well. I think they scare away the "real" guys as well.

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

Ooh, ooh, OOH, you know what kind of guy I want? I want a guy that looks like Nic, but doesn't speak English... like he could be from the Soviet Union or something. That way I don't have to humor him while he talks about himself all night, and when he wants a little fun he'd have to show me instead of running his mouth about how good he is. Yeah!!

Sounds like something straight out of Snowblind! Damn I like that story!

Kimmy · Moderator

Damaris wrote:

See, that's what I'm saying... if he were really hot, and I was pretty sure he wasn't a serial killer or anything, I could probably make an exception. I mean, that sounds terribly shallow, but I'm sorry... there are exceptions to every rule. But it's ALWAYS some fat old fart with a bad toupee, drunk off his ass on beer. It's like, WTF would make him think I would want him to do that to me?

Huh ..I hear you D ...it happens to me more than once to have a goof or

a pervert drunk fat **** idiot to come piss me off at the standing Bar

And yes ...that is what I think WTF you want ...

I did slap in the face a guy once I was soooo mad . he did try to grab my ass!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

I've never had that happen, but I HAVE had them casually brush up against my ass with their hard cock... as if I'm not gonna notice that. When I look back at them they act all embarrassed, like "Oops! It's got a mind of it's own!!". Fuckwits.

a_perfect_circle1678 · Former Queen - Dethroned by Choice

Damaris wrote:

I've never had that happen, but I HAVE had them casually brush up against my ass with their hard cock... as if I'm not gonna notice that. When I look back at them they act all embarrassed, like "Oops! It's got a mind of it's own!!". Fuckwits.

Ewwwwwwww! Now that, for me, would definetly have to be one hot man! Otherwise he'd be losing that hard on faster than he got it!

Damaris · Queen Perv Supremo

One of these days, I'm gonna nail 'em in the balls. Since the room is usually too crowded to move when this happens, my glare of icy steel will have to do.

So here's what I have been putting in my ad:

What I'm looking for is actually pretty simple - I'm not looking for someone to rescue me or who expects me to rescue them. I want someone who doesn't need me, but WANTS me, someone who enjoys it when a woman does little things for him and doesn't take it out of context. I'm not into playing mind games, and I've dated enough to know that I don't want to do it much longer... do you feel the same way? People ask me what I'm looking for in a relationship, and to be honest, I only ask for what I'm already bringing to the table... honesty, affection, personal independence, maturity, a sense of humor, and a real need and desire to communicate. I've never been married or had children, but I am open to meeting divorcees and single parents - however, I am not interested in someone who just needs a "mommy" for their kids (or for themselves!)! If you think you're what I'm looking for, I would love to hear from you!

What do you guys think? I put up an ad this afternoon, and already have a "nibble", but there's no photo with his ad and the ad itself is very brief, tells virtually nothing about him. Guess he's trying to be mysterious or something... or he could just be boring as hell.

-- Edited by Damaris at 19:18, 2005-12-05